"Together, We Make MMPACS!"
Understanding the Paradox
"Recovery from trauma involves (re)connecting with our fellow human beings" (Van Der Kolk, 2015, p.212). This concept creates a paradox in our journey to wellness. It is people that hurt us and it is only by connecting with others and ourselves that we find healing. However, the promise of being attached to another evokes fear of getting hurt, betrayed, or abandoned once again (Van Der Kolk, 2015). Thus comes the paradox. To be open to trusting others makes us vulnerable. We could be harmed once more. That is a reality. One the other hand, we might get everything we ever hoped for if we take the risk with healthy people for us. How then can we decide who we can take the risk with? How can we determine which people have the greatest rewards with the smallest risk?
Truthfully, the best solution is to be able to read everyone's minds and hearts in order to truly see their intentions towards us, however; we do not have such capabilities. We must find other ways to be able to better determine who is worth the risk. Below, you will find reflection questions to help better understand what you value in relationships and see how the values are being lived out in your life with your current relationships.
Reflection/Journal Questions
List the different types of relationships in your life. (Children, parents, partners, medical providers, business partners, etc.)
What traits, values, and characteristics make a healthy relationship?
Has this person demonstrated these traits, values, and characteristics consistently over a long period of time? Give specific examples.
Am I demonstrating healthy traits, values, and characteristics when I am with this person? Give specific examples.
How do I feel when I am with this person and is what I am feeling a healthy emotion?
News from MMPACS
MMPACS had their launch date for their organization and website on 11/02/2022. We are now members on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube and invite all community members to join. The only requirement for membership is the desire for wellness. Welcome to our community. It really is a privilege to be part of your journey in any capacity. Together, we make MMPACS!
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